Are you feeling triggered?
I don’t know about you, but I loathe the word ‘triggered’. It triggers me….. ironic huh.
I used to enjoy a good argument, and knowing my sharp wit and smart mouth could always turn a debate into a victory, until people started backing out of the discussion accusing me of being triggered.
Social media arguing kicked my ass. No one would use that tactic to my face, but in written conversation it was the ultimate bomb. It didn’t matter anymore if I was right or if they were, what mattered is that someone just called time on the discussion.
And I loath to say it, they were right.
Once you go through ascension, pain, heartbreak, drama, confusion; when you get stripped down bare and you have no choice but to reflect, change happens. This time is so valuable. When you drill down on all your pre-programmed coping mechanisms and pre-programmed reactions to triggers, you start to look at why it doesn’t work.
Once you get to the realisation that any outward action, is a distraction from any internal growth, the penny drops. Read that line again if you need to… there was a time I would have got stuck there too.
Arguing your point is unequivocally pointless. The only purpose it can possibly serve is to at some point remind you that there is still work to be done. If you’re still arguing your view point ethically, spiritually, religiously or otherwise, what you are publicly trying to achieve is either satisfaction of ego, or fulfilling your saviour complex to show support to others. It doesn’t serve your personal growth.
When you get past this stage you realise that arguing is pointless. If you disagree with what someone says, move past it. Don’t give it any head space or energy. Do you remember how we were told to handle bullies in school. Ignore them, they will get bored. From an energy perspective this is absolutely correct. This issue can of course get very deep when people are triggered by media outlets and political or organisational discrimination, however if you read through the comments of nearly every article nowadays, you rarely see people fighting the establishment, you see them fighting each other. The posts serve as a platform for debate and boy, do we humans like to be right. Dog with bone anyone!?
So back to my point, arguing is pointless. If something someone says bothers you consider two things: 1. Is it my responsibility to correct that person in an attempt to change their behaviour based on my own perspective, or, option 2. Do I need to put any energy here, or is it something I need to reflect on?
Often if one person makes one controversial or opinionated post, the responders claim to know that person. They call them names, they decide what that person meant, they decide what that person must be like, all without even knowing them. They say things like, “you shouldn’t be airing these views to anyone”, “what makes you better informed”, "why do you think you are better than anyone else”. Just like that, the triggered become the attackers, sometimes increasing the triggering behaviour ten fold.
There is a reason you can’t argue with a ‘woke’ person. People who have done the reflection on every level understand that the only control you have is of your own actions. The only knowledge you hold is your own beliefs, and your only responsibility in regards to communicating with others, is to have an open mind and respect others opinions.
Your opinion is something cultivated from your life experiences to that point. Every step, breath and interaction shapes how your subconscious will react when delivered with a trigger. It's perfectly reasonable to accept that your view point is unique. When you accept that, you can also accept that its the same for others.
This is how you learn to listen to others view points (even if it bothers you, there is something to be learned) respect the different viewpoint (this is why you cant argue with a woke person) they will never say you are wrong, they will simply throw questions back at you to make you go deeper and to challenge your perspective. If you feel like your perspective could deepen and add value to the topic, go ahead; knowledge share! But don’t argue that you are right and they are wrong, operate in the grey area!
There is no such thing as right or wrong. Truth is subjective and can’t be conclusive. This also falls into accepting that there are things you don’t yet fully understand, because you are not there yet. It’s about living in the present, accepting what is, and keeping an open mind. Reserve judgement, contemplate triggers and stop arguing.
Then you will become a master of your own peace!